Going on a Date with the Cards: What Are They Really Like?

Have you ever looked at a tarot card and thought… “Wow, they’d be a lot to date”? No? Just me? 😅
Well, welcome to Tarot Tinder — where we’re not just reading the cards, we’re feeling them.

This isn't about keywords or textbook meanings — this is about chemistry. That vibe. That little feeling in your gut that says, “Oof, I know this energy.” Because tarot isn’t just something we study. It’s something we meet.

So let’s pretend we’ve gone out for coffee with a few cards and see what they’re really like in person. Today’s lineup:
4 of Swords, 9 of Wands, The Hanged Man, 3 of Pentacles, and 5 of Cups.?
(Activity based on the Rider-Waite tarot deck)

4 of Swords — The Peaceful Non-Responder

You show up for your date, ready for warm conversation. You’ve even brushed your hair. But 4 of Swords?
They’re sitting quietly in the corner booth, sipping chamomile tea, eyes half-closed like they just got back from a silent retreat.

You try to make small talk — “So, what do you do for fun?” — but they just smile and say, “I’m resting right now.”
And honestly? They mean it. This isn’t a blow-off. They’re not ghosting you.
They’re recharging. They’ve been through a lot lately (3 of Swords, anyone?) and they’re gently putting themselves back together.

Not just naps and bubble baths — this is soul-deep recovery.
The kind of rest that comes from quieting the mind, shutting down the noise, and letting the mental chatter dissolve into stillness.
They don’t want to talk it out. They want to breathe it out. Think less. Feel nothing for a moment. Just be.

How does this energy feel? Peaceful, but distant. Comforting, but quiet. Like someone who’ll hold space for you — but only after they’ve held it for themselves.

They remind you it’s okay to not answer every message, fix every problem, or be “on” all the time.
Sometimes, the bravest thing is to rest.

9 of Wands — The Battle-Weary Overthinker

Now, this one shows up with bandages, three backup chargers, and a detailed timeline of their last seven breakups.
They’re scanning the café for threats (read: emotional vulnerability), but they’re here — they showed up.

There’s resilience in their eyes. They’re exhausted, but they care. You can tell.
They’re the kind of date who’s been through a lot and expects things to go sideways. They’re watching to see if you’ll hurt them too.

It’s not an easy energy, but it’s real.
You feel this person’s depth — and the tiredness beneath their strength. They’re holding a lot. Maybe you are, too.

What’s this card saying?
That being strong doesn't always look graceful. That sometimes, showing up with your scars still healing is the most courageous thing of all.
This card invites us to ask: Where am I pushing through? And where might I finally let go and soften?

The Hanged Man — The Zen One Who’s Late On Purpose

They arrive 20 minutes late with a serene smile, no apologies, and a philosophical quote about divine timing.
They’re fascinating. Oddly calming. Maybe a bit infuriating.

They speak in metaphors. They pause a lot before they talk. They seem upside down in their way of thinking, but it somehow makes more sense than anything else.

And when they say, “I needed to see it from another angle,” they’re not just talking about the menu — they mean life.
They’re asking you to slow down. To be instead of do.
To let go. Of control. Of urgency. Of needing to know.

The Hanged Man isn’t not moving because they’re lazy — they’re surrendering to something bigger than themselves. They’re flipping the script.
And they want to know: What are you still clinging to that’s keeping you stuck?

3 of Pentacles — The Team Player Who’s Already Made a Shared Google Doc

They’re already sitting at the table with a colour-coded planner, your name pencilled into a collaborative project, and three ideas for what you could create together.
They’re grounded. Supportive. Big “we’re in this together” energy.

This date is less about flirtation and more about, “So, how can we build something that actually works?”
They notice your skills and appreciate your weird niche interests. They’re the kind of person who’ll remind you to drink water while helping you bring your ideas to life.

This card feels like cooperation, mutual respect, and slowly laying down solid foundations.
It asks: Who are you building with? Are they helping you grow?
Because this is relationship energy that’s built to last — and they don’t mind getting their hands dirty to do it.

5 of Cups — The One Who Can’t Stop Looking Back

They sit across from you, eyes lowered, fidgeting with their cup. You ask them how they’ve been, and their answer starts three heartbreaks ago.

There’s a melancholy to them — not because they don’t care about now, but because they’re still mourning what could’ve been.
You sense the weight of regret, the ache of unprocessed loss.
They’re gentle, maybe even poetic. But they’re not fully here. Not yet.

And still — there’s beauty in this vulnerability. You feel a tenderness rise up. A desire to reach out…
But also a caution. Because you can’t pour new connection into a heart too full of yesterday.

This card whispers: What are you still grieving? And are you ready to turn around and see what remains?

So… Who Gets a Second Date?

Maybe the peaceful silence of 4 of Swords felt like a balm for your soul.
Maybe the raw, honest grit of 9 of Wands hit close to home.
Maybe the floaty, mystical pause of The Hanged Man left you intrigued.
Maybe you felt safe with the collaborative heart of the 3 of Pentacles.
Or maybe you saw yourself in the bittersweet ache of 5 of Cups.

These cards — like people — bring different things out in us.
That’s why feeling into your tarot deck matters just as much as memorizing the meanings.
How do they make you feel? What kind of conversation are they trying to have with you?
Are they whispering? Sitting in silence? Inviting you to see the world in a new light?

Next time you pull a card, don’t just read it.
Meet it.

Ask:
💬 What energy are you bringing into my world today?
💬 How do I feel in your presence?
💬 What part of me are you gently nudging awake?

Because the cards don’t just talk.
They connect.

And if you’re lucky, one of them might just show you a part of yourself you didn’t even know was waiting to be loved.

Would you like more posts like this for other cards? Or a printable tarot dating profile set? Let me know in the comments or drop me a message!

🌟 Happy Tarot Adventures,
Gwen ✧ Light Seekers Tarot